Aware Polyamory: a weblog about loving more than one

POLY CONS

Lest we become pollyannaish about polyamory, check out regarding the drawbacks of loving partners that are multiple

JEALOUSY

While additionally a nagging issue in monogamous relationships, possibilities to experience envy and FOMO are far more typical when there will be numerous lovers. Those a new comer to poly may even feel disgust or repulsion towards metamours, specially if these are typically icked away by getting into secondhand experience of others’ fluids. Feeling jealous is a rather normal feeling and does not mean you’re bad or otherwise not cut fully out for polyamory. Nonetheless, it could be really unpleasant to have (on both ends!) and suffering may also become a prophesy that is self-fulfilling. As Shakespeare said, “There is absolutely absolutely absolutely nothing either bad or good but thinking helps it be therefore.” Exploring what exactly is beneath these emotions and just how we frequently unconsciously play away narratives that are cultural usually help sort them out.

COMPLEXITY

Although the feeling of love is numerous, time and effort in many cases are scarce resources and polyamory needs plenty of both. Balancing schedules and parenting duties (whenever young ones may take place), processing feelings and relationship dynamics, and striving to satisfy diverse expectations can occasionally make poly feel just like a Cirque du Soleil work. More relationships can mean more heartbreaks also and “growth possibilities.” Often it may all simply feel just like a great deal to manage and then make one yearn when it comes to sense and simplicity of control (at the least thought) within monogamous relationships. Continue reading Aware Polyamory: a weblog about loving more than one